Lifestyle | The Importance Of Mental Health.

Normally I don’t talk about too personal subjects on my blog, even though I have a public ‘’social media life’’ I still would like to keep somethings private. However, the subject I’m going to write about is close to my heart. In a good and a bad way.

During my childhood and teens, I lived a normal life, a typical girl who lived through the ups and downs that life threw at me. I felt and still feel blessed because it made me who I am. As I was growing up live kicked me hard and I desperately needed to set back. In 2013 my rock, my everything, my heart, my lovely mother got sick. She suffered majorly with her mental health and physical health. My world stopped, everything in my life stopped. My studies lacked my focus, my hobbies, my social contacts, literally everything. The only ‘’me time’’ I had was going to work for two hours during the workweek. Eventually even that felt oppressive.

Understandably the health of my mother became my priority. My family and me were focused on getting my mother to feel better, to become better. From doctor appointments to visiting the mental health clinic to visiting the hospital and regulating her medicines, that was our focus. Next to it came maintaining our household. Cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, my little brothers going to school, my father to work and me visiting my college classes depending on who can be home at that moment, so that my mother wouldn’t be alone. Or going only to my exams, which I even didn’t learn for. We all did everything on automatic pilot.

As you can guess, of course there would be a moment in time that my body is going to shut down. It was time to take a good look in my mirror. It was during my current study for Pedagogy that I realised: I need to stop. I started to promise myself that I need to work on myself! I started to work out, started to go out with my sister, grab a coffee with a friend, hang out with my family and do some shopping. You would think that it was a good thing, meanwhile my feelings about the whole situation started to eat me up. Overthinking, being and feeling annoyed about the little things, binge eating or not eating for hours, being irritated, crying without any reason and being angry about everything and everyone became my way of life. I was ignoring the source of my true emotions, literally. That resulted into tumbling at the edge of a burn out. I felt tired all the time! Mentally, physically, and emotionally. I felt gloomy and dejected.

In January 2018 I made an appointment with my doctor after I almost fainted in the middle of an aisle, when I was running for errands. I felt so dizzy that I felt like I was in a washing machine. If I didn’t hold on to the shopping shelf, I probably would kiss the floor. It was my wakeup call! My anxiety went through the roof, questions like: what’s wrong with me? What Happened? Why? Am I sick? I don’t feel good! My body is crushing down! Omg what is wrong! How sick am I! When I told my doctor what my symptoms were, I felt a bit reassurance. My journey to therapy begun.

I was the best decision I made in my life! I truly felt relieved, especially when I chose for group therapy. I met new people, talked, and heard their stories. It was a beautiful experience; it sounds scary to share your story with others. However, I felt understood and didn’t feel alone. My education during this time helped me a lot too. The classes about psychology and the role plays as professional and patient were an eye-opening! Step by step I felt good again. I felt more and more confident about myself. My life went as it should, I was better able to cope with my home situation. Therapy helped me so much that I started with it again just three weeks ago! This time individually; this time it is not about me being on the edge of insanity, it is about me being strong enough to talk about myself and not about my home situation. It is about me figuring out why I handle things my way. It is about getting to know myself even better.

The moral of this long story, seek professional help, any help. It is like the phrase: ‘’you can run but you can’t hide.’’ Once you face it, you’re going to feel such a big confidence in yourself, that you know the true meaning of your existence. When you read this blogpost, I hope that my story is going to be your first step into your journey of working on your mental health. You’re truly not alone!

Lifestyle | Apps I Use For Blogging & Instagram.

I’m someone who reads other blogs and search online about apps bloggers/influencers use to make their social media life easier and practical. Bloggers out there know blogging means commitment and apps helps a lot with it! I want to share my apps, maybe you didn’t know these helpful ‘’blogging elves’’ yet.

I’m going to start with the most important thing when it becomes to blogging, studying and working. Having your own space! It doesn’t matter how big or small your house is, having a place where you can work peacefully is a must. Mine is my room and in particularly my desk, where I have everything around me from magazines to get inspiration to a pen and paper to scribble down my thoughts. I understand that for everyone it is different. Sitting on the floor in the middle of chaos called life is perfectly fine too.

The app that I use for my blog is of course WordPress. I found this platform the perfect way to blog. It is easy to work with, it has many options and when you need help WordPress is there to help you quickly and understandable. The next app I use is Business Suite from Facebook, I use it for my Facebook page. When I want to share my blogposts, I use it and to see my statistics. What I also use is Bloglovin’. It is a platform for bloggers who share their blog that you can follow to read their new blogposts. I use it for inspiration and read other blogs, it also helps to redirect readers to your blog! The next one I use is Telegram. This app I mostly use to share my Instagram posts in groups for more exposure. The only app I use for ambassadorships is Brandbassador. By promoting their products by sharing a code, you get commission every time your code is being used.

For my Instagram stories and the latest Twitter Fleets, I use the apps Unfold and StoriesEdit. I love these apps because it adds flair to my stories. For the annoying follow to unfollow people I use Unfollowers for Intsagram and Unfollow for my Twitter. It also shows ghost followers and interactions you get on your accounts. It works perfectly for when your account is public. Unwanted interactions are easy to maintain and easy to block them. Hallelujah for this!

What kind of apps do you use?

 

 

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Lifestyle | Am I An Influencer Or Blogger?

This is a question I ask myself since the word influencer got a place in our vocabulary. I started with my blog five years ago and I see big differences from the moment I started until today. I still enjoy writing a blogpost, take pictures and hit the publish button. This hobby is something I would like to keep! But even I cannot deny that the blogging world is changed, this change you either love or hate it. And I have certainly mixed feelings about it!

These thoughts started for me since I noticed that my blog doesn’t get the interactions I use to have. Follows, comments and likes are pluming down and I don’t like it! I’m not hungry for them however, they do show appreciation for my hard work. These interactions are to me proof that I did a good job, I feel appreciated that I get them. You can say that it feels like getting an A for your exam. A good feeling, right?

Yes, I do understand to keep those interactions you should have a strategy. You should know when to post, which hashtags you should use and know all the algorithms of all your social media! Does this not sound to you as an annoying person yapping into your ears? It makes me only feel pressured, doesn’t feel like fun to me. This is the change that I don’t like in the blogging world. To stay relevant, it has to be bigger and better. Or you are just like a needle in a ‘’influencer haystack’’. Don’t let me speak about the dramas that comes with it! #jamescharlesisoverparty #mannymuaiscancelled and many other hashtags that came to life. Ugh, the dragging down of each other, those feuds! To me it is just a waste of time. We all are in the same boat, why is it so hard to mind your own business and be kind and respectful towards each other? And I’m not only talking about these beauty gurus. How about those Instagram influencers who feel too high of themselves to answer a simple blogging related question, because they think that you want to steal their secrets?

Don’t get me wrong, I know how it feels to work hard for something that you put your heart into. And that you want to keep some secrets to yourself because of it. I definitely don’t blame you for this! It is your right to do so however, chill. No need for attitudes! I’m a firm believer of the give and take life motto. Nothing wrong answering a question about which filter you use for your Instagram feed.

To answer my own question, am I an influencer or a blogger? I liked to be called a blogger. I understand the influencing part when it comes to blogging. I write about brands that I love and are bought by myself, but I also worked with brands who sponsored me. I create an opinion about the product, my opinion can be followed or not. Because of it, I influence too. Why am I calling myself a blogger? Because in the five years of my blogging life, I never ‘’took’’ something I don’t believe in. I never got paid for something, I never felt pressured to write a fake blogpost about it. I’m to down-to-earth for that, thank God! Who wants to live in a plastic fantastic world? Not me. I call myself a blogger, because in the five years I blog I have not created a following that are so big, that I can make a brand for myself to sell my own merchandise. I call myself a blogger, because I still write blogposts. My blog is my own creative world, where I can be creative on my own terms and still have a good conscience.

What is your opinion about influencing?

 

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Fashion #OOTD |Trench(coat), Cap & Go!

Loves, I have a new outfit of the day for you! It has been awhile since my latest OOTD, which was during Summer in Morocco. I miss Morocco so much, it’s getting colder and colder in The Netherlands, typical autumn weather. Dark clothes, sweaters and hats are taking it over from colourful clothing, sandals and sun glasses.

A black skinny is my all-time favourite clothing item, I have like two of the same fit in my closet. I want them to stay black, so I wear them alternately. This way they stay black and I was them when needed. Autumn equals oversized, I’ll make sure that I have black sweaters in my wardrobe. You never can go wrong with black! What you also never can go wrong with is a trench coat. I love how it adds flair into a simple outfit, like the one I’m wearing. Beige is the perfect colour, it never goes out of style. I like the details on them, like the black strap on the sleeves and black buttons.

I’m lately obsessed with my captain cap! If you follow me on Snapchat, SaidaSnaps, you have seen me rocking it during the cold weather. I like the woven strap and captain button on it. It gives that edgy, yet chic look. I also hide unabashedly underneath the cap during cycling, one: I can conquer the wind and two: my hair doesn’t turn into a cotton ball. I’m ready for autumn, black clothing is hanging in my closet and black shoes are taking the front row on my shoe shelf. Ankle boots is my go-to shoe at the moment. Wearing it with the black skinny appears my legs look longer. Quite impressive, what shoes can do!

A bag, also a must-have that makes an outfit complete. I finally got a Paul’s Boutique in my collection of high-end bags. The bag is literally square! It doesn’t collapse when you put it down, which is a plus. It also has a strap, I can wear it like a crossbody bag and as a handbag. I like that combination, I don’t have to worry about tired hands or shoulders.

I’m in my midst of my exams and writing a new blogpost feels so good. Setting my mind on something else is the perfect way to go on with learning when I hit that publish button!

How is everything going on with you Loves?

 

 

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Cap: H&M Trench coat: Primark Sweater: Primark Black Skinny: Primark Ankle Boots: H&M Bag: Paul’s Boutique.         

Fashion | GUESS Obsessed.

As long as I can remember, is GUESS one of my favourite brands when it comes to accessories. My first designer bag was a small crossbody blue bag. I was obsessed with it! Since then my love for the brand grew. What I love about the brand is that they have different styles in bags, shoes, wallets and more. From edgy to chic to bohemian, every woman or man will find her or his dream item. I never bought something and later regretted it!

When it comes to bags, I prefer shoppers or handbags with a strap. The first thing that I think about when I look for a bag, is the size the perfect size? I have the habit to take more than I need. So, it has to be a perfect! The shopper is called the Isabeau, I have written a blogpost about it. I wanted an edgy bag, a bag I usually don’t chose easily. But, this time I thought why not? The baby blue snakeskin detailed bag caught my eyes instantly, edgy and yet chic!

My second love for accessories is on the wallets from GUESS. The grey wallet suits perfectly with the Isabeau bag. The wine-red small wallet is perfect for when I decide to take a small bag. My latest purchase is the red wallet. It has many card compartments, an important thing, and golden details. I love that combination, it just never goes out of style! Same goes for the wallet, it has to be the right size. I put cards, of course money and my business cards. I also have coupons and pictures in it. I always make my things personal, especially when they are new. Only then I have the feeling that it’s truly mine.

I always have believed that jewellery makes an outfit complete. The watch has been given to me as a gift by my sister. The bangles have quotes engraved in them. The gold one has ‘’believe in yourself’’ in it and the rose plated has ‘’always & forever’’ in it. Such cute quotes! Definitely ones to remember.

 

What is your favourite brand?

 

 

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Beauty Review | Chanel #488 Elise.

After my MAC Cosmetics lipstick collection, I got the hang of buying high-end makeup that I caught my eyes on Chanel. Chanel is after Elie Saab my favourite brand. Chanel stands for me, as chic and timeless beauty. I chose for Rouge Coco lippie in shade #448 Elise. I don’t know about you loves, but I automatically speak with a fake France accent when I pronounce Elise. Since it’s an attack on my wallet, can we enjoy it with our noses up? I don’t judge!

The outside package looks like typical Chanel. Black with golden lettered details. I always liked that colour combination. When you open it, you’ll get that tingling feeling that we all know. Like when you open presents during Christmas, or in my case, during Eid. The first thing you see is the usual white Chanel logo on top of the lipstick cap. You also can see the logo in the inside of the cap, which is black. The lipstick is surrounded with a golden sheath. I like how a simple looking thing can have a chic appearance.

I hope that I’m not the only one who says that I also buy with my nose. It is kind of habit to smell makeup before I buy it. Chanel past the odour test! The smell can be the best described as the scent of dried rose petals. The lippie has Chanel stamped on it, I like this detail. I was at first a bit sceptical about the colour. I have a love hate relationship when it comes to colour pink. I hate the colour Barbie pink and pale pink, but I like the shades between them. Does it make sense? Anyway, I like it turned out well! Definitely my favourite lippie at the moment.

It went smoothly over my lips when I applied it. I felt instantly the hydration, it lived right up on my lips. Same goes when I swatched it on my wrist. The pigment is so great and long lasting! The shade also surprised me. It has a small amount of glitter, perfect for that last extra sparkle.

 

 

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Fashion #OOTD | Rose Gold Pink.

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Since I’m having Spring vibes and the days getting longer I attend to change my clothing in cute colours like pink. Not only it brightens my mood, I also feel that pink suits my character. It sounds weird but I feel comfy in pink.

I told you Loves that I’m into loose fit tops; this is the reason why this burgundy coloured sweater became my favourite. I wore it over a pink loose fit tee that I wore last Summer. Who said you cannot wear Summer clothing during Winter? Because of it you can enjoy more from the clothing piece and you can watch your pennies. Two birds with one blow! At the same time, burgundy goes so well with pink!

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I can feel happy when I wear a skinny that suits my body figure. This cigar fit denim jean feels even comfy. It is still made from real denim and not that stretch denim, if you know what I mean? I really don’t like this kind of fabric because during your day it turns saggy.

In my last Goodies Look Book I bought these shoes with sale. I truly like things that is not ‘’perfect’’. In fact all goodies that have details or edges. The stripe on the nose of the ankle booth and the belt details caught my eyes when I saw it on the store shelf. The bag I chose for this ootd is a golden oldie. I have this bag for years! Just like my shoes collection. The bag is spacious I can cram everything in it hihi….! Off topic: Please, do let me know if you would like to see my over the years collected bags.

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Writing about details Loves; investing in good pieces like a watch will keep you happy during the years and especially if it has an emotional value. This watch from Guess is a birthday gift from my sister. I’m lately into the necklace with necklace trend. These pink rose goodies is been gifted to me when I attend the press event from Mooi PR. The infinity necklace is from Swarovski and the necklace bar is from TWYN by Mi Moneda. Yet again this necklace bar has a value that is important to me. It is very personal because my name is with my own handwriting engraved on it by TWYN. Love it!

A watch or even a necklace can make your outfit complete. It’s a fun addition that you can style in your own way!

Coat: Bershka Sweather: H&M Top: Primark Jeans: Zara Shoes: Graceland Bag: H&M Necklaces: TWYN & Swarovski Ring: H&M X Swarovski Watch: Guess.

Lifestyle | Hi, Meet My Blog!

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Because I know Loves that having a blog and maintaining it is a hard knock life but at the end always worth it so show me your hard work!

As I was writing about my goals of 2016 which two of them is collaborate with others and lift up my social media is this blogpost a good chance to accomplish and continue on with it.

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Being recognized of your work is the best feeling in the world and this feeling I would never deny my fellow bloggers simple because it is just not in my nature. We all started from the bottom and are where we want to be or still going strong to reach it. I want to read more blogs then the ones I got my blog spotlight on and mostly I want to meet you.

Enough of the mushy talk! Spam in the comments who you are, about what you write and your blog link. Easy right?